101 Ways to Become Sociable

How to Become Sociable

101 Ways to Become Sociable
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Being sociable is hard these days dues to technology addiction because we think technology connects people but what it actually do is pushing everyone apart we forgot who is with us & later regret for that. An illusion that you can’t be sociable is ruling your mind, well that is an illusion completely read this article “How to become more sociable” it helps you improve your Social skills & teach you how to socialize

  1. To improve your social skills, you must start with yourself. Bear in mind that you are the only one who can help. It is very good to be sociable, but you must take action and practice.To improve your social skills, you must start with yourself. Bear in mind that you are the only one who can help. It is very good to be sociable, but you must take action and practice.
  2. Make eye contact. A sliver of self-confidence goes a long way, so try to believe in yourself. (Do not try to be a person that you are not)Make eye contact. A sliver of self-confidence goes a long way, so try to believe in yourself. (Do not try to be a person that you are not)
  3. Talk to others around you. Ask questions, tell jokes, do whatever it takes to start a conversation.Talk to others around you. Ask questions, tell jokes, do whatever it takes to start a conversation.
  4. Remember the E word: Empathy! Ask people about themselves. People love to talk about themselves and what they're interested in. Try to draw them out, find common interests, and sympathize with their problems.Remember the E word: Empathy! Ask people about themselves. People love to talk about themselves and what they’re interested in. Try to draw them out, find common interests, and sympathize with their problems.
  5. Remember the FUN!! If people think you're fun, they will enjoy your company.Remember the FUN!! If people think you’re fun, they will enjoy your company.
  6. Put in the effort. When you are at home, call friends and talk to them on the phone.Put in the effort. When you are at home, call friends and talk to them on the phone.
  7. Always try to accept others' offers and invitations and be with them. Also make invitations to others; it's a good way to show people you enjoy them and they'll like you for it.Always try to accept others’ offers and invitations and be with them. Also make invitations to others; it’s a good way to show people you enjoy them and they’ll like you for it.
  8. Don't be by yourself all the time! If you don't know a lot of people you're around, just walk over and start talking. Most likely, they will talk back to you.Don’t be by yourself all the time! If you don’t know a lot of people you’re around, just walk over and start talking. Most likely, they will talk back to you.
  9. Mix up your routine. Sit with different people at dinner or lunch, not just the same one or two friends. You can be more sociable this way, and around a lot more people.Mix up your routine. Sit with different people at dinner or lunch, not just the same one or two friends. You can be more sociable this way, and around a lot more people.
  10. Be an optimist. People flock to happy people like bees gather near honey. Find ways to be happy and positive.Be an optimist. People flock to happy people like bees gather near honey. Find ways to be happy and positive.
  11. Compliment people. It's a great conversation-starter.Compliment people. It’s a great conversation-starter.
  12. Always believe in yourself. Believe that you are exactly who you want to be.Always believe in yourself.  Believe that you are exactly who you want to be.
  13. Don't act stuck-up. There is a difference between confidence and snobbery.Don’t act stuck-up. There is a difference between confidence and snobbery.
  14. Remember, being social does not mean being everyone's friend. It is okay to be selective with friends and a little cautious.Remember, being social does not mean being everyone’s friend. It is okay to be selective with friends and a little cautious.
  15. It's safer that way and ensures you get quality friends, not quantity. The main test of if you should be friends is this: In general, do I feel good after being with this person? If not, your intuition is telling you something and it is time to move on.It’s safer that way and ensures you get quality friends, not quantity. The main test of if you should be friends is this: In general, do I feel good after being with this person? If not, your intuition is telling you something and it is time to move on.
  16. Compliment other people. What you compliment them on may lead to a conversation. So far it would exchange into a good socialization processCompliment other people. What you compliment them on may lead to a conversation. So far it would exchange into a good socialization process
  17. Don't over analyze what to say before saying it. One cannot stress how important this is. Almost everything you think about saying might sound stupid to you, but it usually isn't. Just spit it out!Don’t over analyze what to say before saying it. One cannot stress how important this is. Almost everything you think about saying might sound stupid to you, but it usually isn’t. Just spit it out!
  18. Go with the flow (but only when you feel comfortable with it!)Go with the flow (but only when you feel comfortable with it!)
  19. Be positive and happy which is a very attractive quality within a group of peoplesBe positive and happy which is a very attractive quality within a group of peoples
  20. Don't fear rejection, and just believe that they don't think anything about you, or know anything about you.Don’t fear rejection, and just believe that they don’t think anything about you, or know anything about you.
  21. Listen as much, if not more, than you talk. It shows you care about those around you and don't want to take control.Listen as much, if not more, than you talk. It shows you care about those around you and don’t want to take control.
  22. Walk up to others with a positive and cheery attitude. That shows them you're pleasant and fun to be around.Walk up to others with a positive and cheery attitude. That shows them you’re pleasant and fun to be around.
  23. Don't talk all the time just to not seem shy. This can become very annoying. Listen, then add to what the other person said.Don’t talk all the time just to not seem shy. This can become very annoying. Listen, then add to what the other person said.
  24. Don't mimic your friends exactly. Just identify the things you find helpful, and form them into your social routine. However, do this without losing your respect for them.Don’t mimic your friends exactly. Just identify the things you find helpful, and form them into your social routine. However, do this without losing your respect for them.
  25. Try not to talk badly about others. Some friendships share gripes with others, and other people might be the source of these gripes, but be careful not to overdo it - being catty or nasty will usually backfire and make you less appealing.Try not to talk badly about others. Some friendships share gripes with others, and other people might be the source of these gripes, but be careful not to overdo it – being catty or nasty will usually backfire and make you less appealing.
  26. Don't be afraid to act silly or funny, but know where to stop.Don’t be afraid to act silly or funny, but know where to stop.
  27. Another thing that helps is trying to always be honest. If your friends are having trouble in their lives, (i.e. a drug addiction) tell them about how it's affecting their lives, that is, if it's a big problem in their lives.Another thing that helps is trying to always be honest. If your friends are having trouble in their lives, (i.e. a drug addiction) tell them about how it’s affecting their lives, that is, if it’s a big problem in their lives.
  28. Do not just talk to the same gender. Only mixing with the same gender is a common problem, whereas a sociable person will interact and get along with people of any gender, ethnicity or nationality.Do not just talk to the same gender. Only mixing with the same gender is a common problem, whereas a sociable person will interact and get along with people of any gender, ethnicity or nationality.
  29. Do not ever be clingy toward someone you don't know well. You will seem less social and likable. This is actually how to lose friends.Do not ever be clingy toward someone you don’t know well. You will seem less social and likable. This is actually how to lose friends.
  30. Crack a joke. (Having a sense of humor is important, but don't get too carried away, there are some things you have to be serious about. If you joke about your friend in a rude way it could damage your relationship with them.)Crack a joke. (Having a sense of humor is important, but don’t get too carried away, there are some things you have to be serious about. If you joke about your friend in a rude way it could damage your relationship with them.)
  31. Smile as much as you can! Signs of encouragement let people know you care about what they are saying.Smile as much as you can! Signs of encouragement let people know you care about what they are saying.
  32. Share interesting/silly ideas. Your thoughts can open up many doors that can lead to friendship.Share interesting/silly ideas. Your thoughts can open up many doors that can lead to friendship.
  33. Listen more than you talk. Instead of nodding and smiling and occasionally wiping the drool off your face, try to take what the person says and run with it. Add your own thoughts into the mix - but don't hijack the conversation.Listen more than you talk. Instead of nodding and smiling and occasionally wiping the drool off your face, try to take what the person says and run with it. Add your own thoughts into the mix – but don’t hijack the conversation.
  34. Start by doing little things if you are very reserved. For example, every time you go to school, work, or wherever, say hello to one person and have a one-on-one conversation with them
  35. Say hello to those that don't talk much. (Share something about yourself, such as where you're going or why you're there. Avoid talking about the weather - as Tom Waits says, Strangers talk about the weather. Try to compliment them.Say hello to those that don’t talk much. (Share something about yourself, such as where you’re going or why you’re there. Avoid talking about the weather – as Tom Waits says, Strangers talk about the weather.  Try to compliment them.
  36. Don't expect perfection out of anyone, especially yourself. For example, if you forget your own name while introducing yourself, just make fun of the situation.Don’t expect perfection out of anyone, especially yourself. For example, if you forget your own name while introducing yourself, just make fun of the situation.
  37. Talk to older people, maybe even your own folks. They will be less likely to ridicule you, therefore making it easier to learn to talk well.Talk to older people, maybe even your own folks. They will be less likely to ridicule you, therefore making it easier to learn to talk well.
  38. Place importance on making social contacts. The people who are considered popular may not be the sharpest tacks in the box, but they are acquainted with important people who may contribute to their future careers. It is never too late to feel that being popular is important. If your work environment allows for it, host a party, organize a sports game, etc.Place importance on making social contacts. The people who are considered popular may not be the sharpest tacks in the box, but they are acquainted with important people who may contribute to their future careers. It is never too late to feel that being popular is important. If your work environment allows for it, host a party, organize a sports game, etc.
  39. Love yourself. It is difficult to like others when you do not appreciate yourself for who you are. Try exercise to improve your self-esteem. Start your journey to self-discovery. Love yourself. It is difficult to like others when you do not appreciate yourself for who you are. Try exercise to improve your self-esteem. Start your journey to self-discovery.
  40. Be loyal. Little things count. If you make an appointment, be on time. If you're in a group, show up early, and stay late (even if you don't have anything to say at the moment).Be loyal. Little things count. If you make an appointment, be on time. If you’re in a group, show up early, and stay late (even if you don’t have anything to say at the moment).
  41. Be nice to others. Always give compliments, but don't try too hard. If you are shy, take a deep breath and risk it - you never know what might happen. Again, if you are shy on the outside but a little crazy on the inside, let it out once in a while. Wear your hair up high and spin around or dance. Others will laugh and find you funny and fun to be with.Be nice to others. Always give compliments, but don’t try too hard. If you are shy, take a deep breath and risk it – you never know what might happen. Again, if you are shy on the outside but a little crazy on the inside, let it out once in a while. Wear your hair up high and spin around or dance. Others will laugh and find you funny and fun to be with.
  42. Respect everyone, no matter what they think or say. They are a person and deserve to be treated with respect. If you treat people well they will treat you the same.Respect everyone, no matter what they think or say. They are a person and deserve to be treated with respect. If you treat people well they will treat you the same.
  43. Everybody likes some attention, (even the shy ones). Pay a little attention to people, and they'll repay you warmly. It doesn't take much.Everybody likes some attention, (even the shy ones). Pay a little attention to people, and they’ll repay you warmly. It doesn’t take much.
  44. Do not be selfish. Many think if they are generous their friends would take advantage of them. This is an absurd paradox. If your friends were taking advantage of you, you would see right through them, and they should not be considered your friend!Do not be selfish. Many think if they are generous their friends would take advantage of them. This is an absurd paradox. If your friends were taking advantage of you, you would see right through them, and they should not be considered your friend!
  45.  Avoid saying something that could be taken the wrong way, but don't over-analyze what you want to say. If you think about it too much, not only will you miss out on your chance to contribute to the conversation, but what you do end up saying might sound scripted and unnatural.Avoid saying something that could be taken the wrong way, but don’t over-analyze what you want to say. If you think about it too much, not only will you miss out on your chance to contribute to the conversation, but what you do end up saying might sound scripted and unnatural.
  46. Find people who share your interests. Get up and join a group that has similar interests. In that environment, it would be easier to meet people and make friends.Find people who share your interests. Get up and join a group that has similar interests. In that environment, it would be easier to meet people and make friends.
  47. Avoid prejudice, even among age. It is not impossible for a 20-year-old to be a friend to a 70-year-old. Don't limit your possibilities.Avoid prejudice, even among age. It is not impossible for a 20-year-old to be a friend to a 70-year-old. Don’t limit your possibilities.
  48. Earn some money. You'll be able to go out and do more things, and if you get a job, you'll meet more people there who have similar experiences.Earn some money. You’ll be able to go out and do more things, and if you get a job, you’ll meet more people there who have similar experiences.
  49. Surround yourself with people you want to be like.Surround yourself with people you want to be like.
  50. Be passionate about what you believe in - keep your own opinions and ideas.Be passionate about what you believe in – keep your own opinions and ideas.
  51. Take genuine interest in other people, and they will do the same for you.Take genuine interest in other people, and they will do the same for you.
  52. A great way to start a conversation with someone new is to ask advice. Everyone wants to show off a little and most likely they'll be happy to help.A great way to start a conversation with someone new is to ask advice. Everyone wants to show off a little and most likely they’ll be happy to help.
  53. Start out slowly with people. Begin conversations with open-ended questions like, How’s it going? And let the other person run with the conversation. Calibrate their initial response, to gauge whether they are responsive to more conversation.Start out slowly with people. Begin conversations with open-ended questions like, How’s it going?  And let the other person run with the conversation. Calibrate their initial response, to gauge whether they are responsive to more conversation.
  54. Don't forget about your other friends! Introduce them to each other. That way, you'll have more to talk about and your friends can make more friends, too.Don’t forget about your other friends! Introduce them to each other. That way, you’ll have more to talk about and your friends can make more friends, too.
  55. Sometimes people need a little coaxing. You might have to ask them how you are. And what have you been up to? In succession before you get a deep enough response to bring about further conversation.Sometimes people need a little coaxing. You might have to ask them how you are.  And what have you been up to?  In succession before you get a deep enough response to bring about further conversation.
  56. People often underestimate how self-conscious other people are. When you interact with other people, remember that they can often make the conversation uncomfortable because of their own insecurities. The best thing to do is to be confident. Confidence gives you a greater vantage point in which to see the social inadequacies of other people.People often underestimate how self-conscious other people are. When you interact with other people, remember that they can often make the conversation uncomfortable because of their own insecurities. The best thing to do is to be confident. Confidence gives you a greater vantage point in which to see the social inadequacies of other people.
  57. Aim to get respect from other people instead of their approval. People are attracted to the people that value themselves. If you are looking for other people's approval then you are implicitly saying that I value this person's opinion of me, and valuation of me as my indication of worth. You have to value yourself and not seek anyone else's value assessment of you.Aim to get respect from other people instead of their approval. People are attracted to the people that value themselves. If you are looking for other people’s approval then you are implicitly saying that I value this person’s opinion of me, and valuation of me as my indication of worth.  You have to value yourself and not seek anyone else’s value assessment of you.
  58. Surround yourself with other people and you will attract more people. People take shortcuts, and in the absence of spending hours with you to find out who you really are, they look to see that you are liked by other people (it's called social proof). As a result, they come to the conclusion, if other people like you, then I suspect I can like you as well.Surround yourself with other people and you will attract more people. People take shortcuts, and in the absence of spending hours with you to find out who you really are, they look to see that you are liked by other people (it’s called social proof). As a result, they come to the conclusion, if other people like you, then I suspect I can like you as well.
  59. One thing that people like to talk about is sports. A good way to start a conversation is Hey! How 'bout them (team)? (If they are into sports that is)One thing that people like to talk about is sports. A good way to start a conversation is Hey! How ’bout them (team)?  (If they are into sports that is)
  60. It's easier to talk to people if you have shared an experience with them. Clearly the friends you have at the moment predominantly talk about interesting things they did in the past.It’s easier to talk to people if you have shared an experience with them. Clearly the friends you have at the moment predominantly talk about interesting things they did in the past.
  61. Don't be afraid to ask them for their Facebook, Myspace, AIM Scree name, email address, phone #, etc. It’s very important that you guys stay in contact if you want more friends.Don’t be afraid to ask them for their Facebook, Myspace, AIM Scree name, email address, phone #, etc. It’s very important that you guys stay in contact if you want more friends.
  62. Avoid self-destructive thoughts. Doing things that build talent and esteem will subdue such negativity.Avoid self-destructive thoughts. Doing things that build talent and esteem will subdue such negativity.
  63. It is not necessary to accept the first person who comes along, as a friend. Judge them on their merits, not their appearance.It is not necessary to accept the first person who comes along, as a friend. Judge them on their merits, not their appearance.
  64. Don't try to say something just for the purpose of looking smart or funny. Most people would rather be friends with someone who comes off as being sincere, not someone just trying to show off. Make sure your humor comes naturally and isn't forced.Don’t try to say something just for the purpose of looking smart or funny. Most people would rather be friends with someone who comes off as being sincere, not someone just trying to show off. Make sure your humor comes naturally and isn’t forced.
  65. Not everybody likes a bubbly, social, funny personality. A lot of people probably like you just as you are!Not everybody likes a bubbly, social, funny personality. A lot of people probably like you just as you are!
  66. DON'T think about changing into someone else that you are not as you will not get respect that way. If you lie about something that you really don't do, they'll end up finding out & maybe everyone the next week won't be into that anymore, so your best thing to do is talk about your own interests & ask them about theirs or any others they may have.DON’T think about changing into someone else that you are not as you will not get respect that way. If you lie about something that you really don’t do, they’ll end up finding out & maybe everyone the next week won’t be into that anymore, so your best thing to do is talk about your own interests & ask them about theirs or any others they may have.
  67. The 'key thing' in a conversation is the word 'you'. Ask them about themselves. DON'T go talking about yourself the whole time! If you notice you are saying I too much or are just talking about yourself, hurry up & finish that sentence & ask them about what they like. Example: I like that singer's style. What kind of music do you like?The ‘key thing’ in a conversation is the word ‘you’. Ask them about themselves. DON’T go talking about yourself the whole time! If you notice you are saying I too much or are just talking about yourself, hurry up & finish that sentence & ask them about what they like. Example:  I like that singer’s style. What kind of music do you like?
  68. Never put yourself down. Always be confident and other people will notice. Making a bad remark about yourself only makes it OK for other people to do so too.Never put yourself down. Always be confident and other people will notice. Making a bad remark about yourself only makes it OK for other people to do so too.
  69. Watch late night comedy so you can develop a sense of how to make people laugh.Watch late night comedy so you can develop a sense of how to make people laugh.
  70. Don’t crack a joke every 5 seconds, people will think you're annoying and won’t want to hang around youDon’t crack a joke every 5 seconds, people will think you’re annoying and won’t want to hang around you
  71. Don’t try too hard to be funnyDon’t try too hard to be funny
  72. Smile and be open. Make yourself open to conversation and meeting people. At work or school smile at the people in your class or office to become sociable. A smile can go a long way toward making someone seem approachable.Smile and be open. Make yourself open to conversation and meeting people. At work or school smile at the people in your class or office to become sociable. A smile can go a long way toward making someone seem approachable.
  73. Ask questions. Someone who seems to be taking the same classes, or working on the same project in the office is the perfect candidate to ask questions of. Question a fellow student about a professor you both have, or ask your co-worker about the approaching deadline. It only takes a small question or comment to open up conversation and become sociable.Ask questions. Someone who seems to be taking the same classes, or working on the same project in the office is the perfect candidate to ask questions of. Question a fellow student about a professor you both have, or ask your co-worker about the approaching deadline. It only takes a small question or comment to open up conversation and become sociable.
  74. Get out of the house. No one is going to seek your friendship on your couch except maybe your dog. Go to the nearest coffee shop or cafe. Bring a book, but don't keep your nose in it. Look around and make eye contact or strike up a conversation with someone sitting close to you.Get out of the house. No one is going to seek your friendship on your couch except maybe your dog. Go to the nearest coffee shop or cafe. Bring a book, but don’t keep your nose in it. Look around and make eye contact or strike up a conversation with someone sitting close to you.
  75. Bolster your ego. Come to an understanding that we are all human, and no one is better or worse than you are. Everyone has a good and bad side, and seek out the good in yourself to give you confidence to brave the social scene. Confident open people are easy to talk to and if you start the conversation you are taking matters into your own hands, which can be another confidence booster.Bolster your ego. Come to an understanding that we are all human, and no one is better or worse than you are. Everyone has a good and bad side, and seek out the good in yourself to give you confidence to brave the social scene. Confident open people are easy to talk to and if you start the conversation you are taking matters into your own hands, which can be another confidence booster.
  76. Look people in the eyes when you are talking to people. Looking people in the eyes will come off to people as you having confidence. It is a good skill to have.Look people in the eyes when you are talking to people. Looking people in the eyes will come off to people as you having confidence. It is a good skill to have.
  77. Start talking to someone around you. You can make small talk, ask questions, tell them a funny joke, etc.Start talking to someone around you. You can make small talk, ask questions, tell them a funny joke, etc.
  78. Always ask people about themselves. There are a lot of people who enjoy talking about themselves.Always ask people about themselves. There are a lot of people who enjoy talking about themselves.
  79. If you can make it, accept other people's offers or invites and go. This will tell them that you are available and want to be there friends.If you can make it, accept other people’s offers or invites and go. This will tell them that you are available and want to be there friends.
  80. Try to make a conscious effort to be around people. So what if you have never met them before in your entire life. You should just start having a conversation with them.Try to make a conscious effort to be around people. So what if you have never met them before in your entire life. You should just start having a conversation with them.
  81. When you are at lunch, try to sit with people you have never met. If it seems like they have an open sit, go and ask if you can join them.When you are at lunch, try to sit with people you have never met. If it seems like they have an open sit, go and ask if you can join them.
  82. You are not the only one with the problem of socializing. A lot of the people out there have a problem speaking in gatherings. Relax and everything should fall into place. Most of the problem that comes with socializing usually happens with fear and insecurity. Remember you are out there to have fun. Once you relax, you should be able to believe in yourself more.You are not the only one with the problem of socializing. A lot of the people out there have a problem speaking in gatherings. Relax and everything should fall into place. Most of the problem that comes with socializing usually happens with fear and insecurity. Remember you are out there to have fun. Once you relax, you should be able to believe in yourself more.
  83. The people at social functions are not much different than you. Take a look at them and see what they are doing. Try to copy what they do. See what confident people do. Try to act like these confident people. Don't overdo it though. Nobody likes a copycat. It is always important to be yourself. You can emulate and imitate while incorporating your style.The people at social functions are not much different than you. Take a look at them and see what they are doing. Try to copy what they do. See what confident people do. Try to act like these confident people. Don’t overdo it though. Nobody likes a copycat. It is always important to be yourself. You can emulate and imitate while incorporating your style.
  84. Being sociable involves you moving your lips. If you look around, you are sure to find people in the same situation as you. You can approach them and start a conversation with them. What is the worst that could happen? They could ignore you, but, hey, it is their loss. If that does happen, there are plenty of other people to talk to.Being sociable involves you moving your lips. If you look around, you are sure to find people in the same situation as you. You can approach them and start a conversation with them. What is the worst that could happen? They could ignore you, but, hey, it is their loss. If that does happen, there are plenty of other people to talk to.
  85. Remember that being sociable doesn't mean it always has to be about you. You can ask them how they are. In general, people like talking about themselves. Draw it out of the people around you. A little curiosity said in a nice way will bring anybody out of his or her shell.Remember that being sociable doesn’t mean it always has to be about you. You can ask them how they are.  In general, people like talking about themselves. Draw it out of the people around you. A little curiosity said in a nice way will bring anybody out of his or her shell.
  86. Just remember to have fun. If you start having fun, everything will fall into place. Your personality will come out and people will love talking to happy people. The more fun you have, the easier socializing becomes.Just remember to have fun. If you start having fun, everything will fall into place.  Your personality will come out and people will love talking to happy people. The more fun you have, the easier socializing becomes.
  87. Just follow these simple steps and you will be enjoying yourself too much to even notice that you are already socializing. Just be confident and your confidence is going to get you socializing in no time.Just follow these simple steps and you will be enjoying yourself too much to even notice that you are already socializing. Just be confident and your confidence is going to get you socializing in no time.
  88. Put yourself out there - go to every social event, club, etc. you can. Search them out.Put yourself out there – go to every social event, club, etc. you can. Search them out.
  89. DO NOT rely on alcohol. You'll train yourself to think I can only be social when I'm being a drunk idiot and people don't like that. Alcohol isn't evil, but don't let it become a crutch.DO NOT rely on alcohol. You’ll train yourself to think I can only be social when I’m being a drunk idiot and people don’t like that. Alcohol isn’t evil, but don’t let it become a crutch.
  90. Don’t worry about how you’re doing when you’re interacting with a group. Just go with the flow. Don’t stress out about being able to say something witty; let it happen naturally (or even not at all). No one likes forced humor.
  91. Don't constrain yourself to one social group. Go out and check out new clubs and social groups; maybe you'll find people you have more to talk about with.Don’t constrain yourself to one social group. Go out and check out new clubs and social groups; maybe you’ll find people you have more to talk about with.
  92. Intentional practice - go out and trying to be whatever it is you want to be in a variety of situations, just keep in mind you have to be practicing what you're wanting to do and not just trying to practice it goes along with the whole out of your comfort zone bit Intentional practice – go out and trying to be whatever it is you want to be in a variety of situations, just keep in mind you have to be practicing what you’re wanting to do and not just  trying to practice  it goes along with the whole  out of your comfort zone  bit
  93. Don't pigeonhole yourself, practice outside of parties and bars. Strike up a conversation with people at the grocery store, bank, in class, or at workDon’t pigeonhole yourself, practice outside of parties and bars. Strike up a conversation with people at the grocery store, bank, in class, or at work
  94. Observe - Look at what other people are doing and see what works, imitate it, but don't duplicate it, nobody likes a copycat. Also observe what works when you're out there practicing.Observe – Look at what other people are doing and see what works, imitate it, but don’t duplicate it, nobody likes a copycat. Also observe what works when you’re out there practicing.
  95. Don't be fake, you're going to feel fake at first but that's ok. Eventually with enough practice, it will become natural, after it's natural it just might become who you are. Just make sure not to force some obvious ploy for attention like busting into goofy accents or something like that, nobody likes attention whores.Don’t be fake, you’re going to feel fake at first but that’s ok. Eventually with enough practice, it will become natural, after it’s natural it just might become who you are. Just make sure not to force some obvious ploy for attention like busting into goofy accents or something like that, nobody likes attention whores.
  96. Cheap trick #1: Tell dirty jokes, people will listen, especially if it's really offensive. One of my favorites that seems to work isCheap trick #1: Tell dirty jokes, people will listen, especially if it’s really offensive. One of my favorites that seems to work is
  97. Cheap trick #2: exaggerate/make up short stories that no one can debunk. This is very hesitantly advised, because you become at risk for being that guy, who lies about everything or stumbling in your own lies. It works best with people that don't know you very well, or see you often and probably won't care if the story is true or not.Cheap trick #2: exaggerate/make up short stories that no one can debunk. This is very hesitantly advised, because you become at risk for being that guy, who lies about everything or stumbling in your own lies.   It works best with people that don’t know you very well, or see you often and probably won’t care if the story is true or not.
  98. Just try and spark conversations with your family, take great notice at how they respond, watch their body language, to become a great communicator, body language is an essential starting point. Then, do the same with your friends. Take note of how they respond to common scenarios.Just try and spark conversations with your family, take great notice at how they respond, watch their body language, to become a great communicator, body language is an essential starting point. Then, do the same with your friends. Take note of how they respond to common scenarios.
  99. The best way of being 'sociable' is to be yourself, pleasant and talk normally and show interest in others and as you well know friends will come to you, don't try to change the special you as you are now.The best way of being ‘sociable’ is to be yourself, pleasant and talk normally and show interest in others and as you well know friends will come to you, don’t try to change the special you as you are now.
  100. DO NOT, SIMPLY DO NOT socialize via internet. It won't help, and talking face to face is the only really good way to become a more sociable person.DO NOT, SIMPLY DO NOT socialize via internet. It won’t help, and talking face to face is the only really good way to become a more sociable person.
  101. Sincerity is important, don't act like you’re interested. False sincerity is betrayal and people will distance from you if they find out you’re not sincereSincerity is important, don’t act like you’re interested. False sincerity is betrayal and people will distance from you if they find out you’re not sincere

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