Be Self Sufficient
Before you are ready, you need to be content on your own. If you are seeking a soul mate primarily to fill the void inside you – then your primary interest lies in getting something from your significant other. How would you like to go out with someone who’s trying to get something out of you?
An ideal relationship is a union of two independent people, who are choosing to be interdependent. Interdependency creates and enhances better life, life than being alone. It’s different from co-dependence, two people dependent on each other. When you base your self-worth, even partially, on anything other than your intrinsic self-esteem and your personal principles, you are resting on an unreliable, rocky ground.
Be the person you would love to love
Instead of waiting for your soul mate to appear, make yourself the person you would like to find. Work on becoming the unique individual you’re looking for.
Be Self Confident
In addition to being self-sufficient, you need to have a healthy self-esteem, confidence that you are a great person who deserves a great partner in life.
Know Who You Are Seeking
Imagine a state, how you feel in the company of your soulmate. From it, create a portrait of the person you are seeking. You are welcome to get into details, but be sure you don’t get married to them. What you’re seeking is that feeling – and don’t assume who can make you feel that way.
Do You Like The Same Things
There are some clues and indicators that the person you are interested in may be the one you are looking for. One good indicator is whether you like the same things. Similar interests are good clues that a person is your soulmate.
How Comfortable Are You with Them
Many times when you first meet someone you are interested in, you may feel nervous and have trouble acting like yourself when they are around. If you are with your soulmate, you may not feel nervous at all. It may feel very comfortable or almost familiar. You may find that you don’t have to act a certain way to impress them.
Do You Feel You Could Tell Them Your Deepest Secrets
Trust is always an issue in any relationship. You may love someone but you might not be able to trust them with everything. All of your hopes, dreams, and even your deepest secrets should find a safe haven with a soulmate. If you can have complete trust of the person that you are with, then they are a good candidate for your true love.
Being strongly attracted to each other physically
Physical attraction to soul mate is a considerable fact because it gives you feeling to be with her.
Being strongly attracted to each other’s personalities
Being strongly attracted to each other’s personalities will keep you happy about your soul mate
Sharing the same values
Look, whether you and your beloved share the same values.
Major respect for one another
Give a close look over every attitude of your partner to find out, how he/she shows respect to you.
Someone who makes you feel truly special and worthy
Ask yourself to whom you want to build a strong relationship how much special and worthy is he/she to you? It will say you do you really feel his/her.
Check your importance to his/her
Someone who puts in a great effort to show you their passion for you and the things that is important in your life.
Meeting on the same emotional levels
Measure the emotional levels how much and where does it match to your soul mate.
Remember that your soul mate might not be what you expect
If there’s only one person in the world who can be your soulmate, what are the chances that they’ll live in your town, look like the people you grew up with, or even speak the same language? you do need to be receptive to people with different backgrounds.. So keep an open mind. Part of the romance of having a soulmate is being pleasantly surprised.
Life doesn’t normally work on the schedule you envision. Your soulmate might cross your path when you’re 8 or 80 years old. Don’t be surprised either if there is a considerable age difference between the two of you.
Be Open to Change
But the flip side of the self sufficiency and self confidence is that you need to be ready, willing and able to accept and allow your life to be affected and changed by another person. When you open up your life to another person, you’re letting in a whole set of your partner’s needs and desires. And you can be certain that they will be different from your own.
Believe in Your Soul Mate
Make a list of what “soul mate” means to you and the qualities you seek in your true love. Embrace your belief and find within yourself a place of trust and knowing that there is someone out there, somewhere, for you.
Make Your Life Love-Friendly
Gently look around your life for ways that you might be preventing love from finding you. Then make a choice to uncover beliefs, behaviors, and stuff that no longer serve you. Clean up what you no longer need, get your life in the best order possible, and you will find yourself getting ready for a great relationship.
Acknowledge and Slay the Dragons
Be brave now and name the things (dragons) that are keeping you from love. Are you immature in love relationships? Demanding? Needy? Obsessive? Do you love too much? Give yourself away too fast? Begin to identify the things that get in your way and have burned you in the past.
Work on Healing Your Love Wounds
Find a forum in which you can work on healing your heart, and stick with it. Do it for you and love will follow?
Gently Say Good-Bye to Non-Soul Mate Love
Don’t try to replace lost love; grieve for the relationship that you must leave. Give yourself some time before you search for another love. This is key for some of us who tends to jump from relationship to relationship. You will know when it is time to open to love again.
Appreciate the Path You’ve Traveled
Appreciate the relationships that have taught you what you don’t want. Honor those loves. Express gratitude for the lessons you have learned, even the toughest ones. Send a spiritual message to your old flame’s angels saying, “I thank you, I bless you, I release you.”
Clean Your House for Love
Clean out closets, drawers, and rooms to begin to physically release things. Toss out old stuff that depletes your energy and keeps you stuck in the past. Liberate yourself from the past by cleaning out one drawer at a time, until you work your way through the pain of divorce and abandonment, the ones that got away, and the ones who left you disappointed in love.
Develop the Capacity to Identify True Love
In order to recognize true love, you have to have a sense of what love looks like: you must learn to see through your spiritual eyes. There is usually a telltale sign that lets you know when true love has arrived–a deep sense of knowing, a “gut feeling,”or even a still, small voice in your head that says this is someone special to you.
Don’t Hate Being Single
Honor the state of not yet having a mate. Enjoy your life, go out with friends, and pursue paths of self improvement. Spend time finetuning skills, nurturing interests, and having adventures.
Honor the Yearning
Allow the yearning. Make friends with it, because it will lead you to love. In soul mate relationships, lovers meet one another halfway. Your honest yearning for your true love spiritually connects the two of you together.
Focus your energy on calling your true love to you now. For 30 days and 30 nights, take 15 minutes in the morning and 15 before bedtime to play the “movie” of the “Love of My Life” in your head and your heart.
Open Your Arms to Your True Love
Imagine the warmth and love in your soul mate’s embrace. Get a sense of what it would feel like to be that open, that loving, and that welcoming to another. When you go to bed at night, open your arms to your love and whisper, “I am here for you.” And when you awake in the morning, open your arms and affirm, “I am ready for you, my love.” Even in moments of doubt and fear, open your arms to love. Know that every step you take in the direction of love will bring your true love closer to you.