Communication is, perhaps, one of the most important skills for a person to have. Sadly, the vast majority of people are not born with an innate ability to communicate well. In fact, most of us aren’t. That is why, on this page, I am going to share with you some of the best tips around for improving communication skills.
First and foremost, you are going to need to learn to be a good listener. Honestly, so many people think that communication is just about them talking, but it is not. Communication is all about back and forth. If you do not understand or even listen to what the other person is saying, are you really communicating? (hint: no, you are not). In addition to this, people know when their viewpoints are not being heard and they will not feel valued. This will make it harder for you to get your point across.
If somebody else is talking, do not talk over them. Even if you disagree with their opinion, they are entitled to their opinion. What you have to say is not more important. You are both people. Let them finish what they are saying first. If you are a good communicator, you will listen to them constantly.
Many people finish other people’s sentences. Do not do that. It is not helpful. It is just you trying to take control of the conversation and that, obviously, is not going to be good for you at all.
Learn how to paraphrase. If somebody says something to you that is highly detailed, repeat it back to them in a concise way. This shows that you have been listening to what they said to you. It also demonstrates that you are part of the conversation and thus, you are going to appear as a good communicator. It also has the side effect of you being corrected if you got something wrong, which is always going to be a huge plus!
You should always pay attention to your body language. For example, if you are sitting there with your arms crossed or, perhaps, not making eye contact, then it demonstrates that you really do not care what the other person is saying. In addition to this, you should do away with the playing about with a phone. This is something which a whole lot of people do!
Small talk is something that you are, unfortunately, going to need to deal with from time to time. Spontaneous small talk is incredibly difficult. Therefore, it is suggested that you come up with some sort of ‘idea’ as to your ‘go to’ when it comes to small talk. Talking about family or occupation is a good start here. Don’t talk about the weather. This is just going to be a complete cringe. Trust me on that one.
Finally, be brief when communicating. Nobody likes somebody who rambles on and on about something. Being concise also makes it easier for the other person to understand you.